To trust or not to trust the facebook friends!
By TEK CHHETRI FOR THE ROAMING POST
A common question that reverberates in the heads of many people, but hardly do they agree to a common answer. Are facebook friends reliable? I am sure you need more time to think of to give an unbiased answer. Because, we can easily find many facebook users who will give contradictory opinions. It seems that today’s young generation tends to adore online friends, but at the same time somewhere in the corner of their minds, they are scared of unknown. So, to get a reliable answer of ‘Are facebook friends reliable?’ we are here to question the reliability of Facebook friends.
People integrate all their efforts for years to build up their social image. Social media is the fertile land where seeds of talent sprout almost every day. Every now and then, new faces appear on social media, some stay longer while others enjoy short glory before falling into oblivion. The Internet is better defined by social media like Facebook. And, yes…all the credit goes to the people who directly or indirectly make invaluable contribution to develop Facebook.
Almost every one of us has gone through a time in life where we regret at our ridiculous mistakes on Facebook. If not then go back to timeline and check some old posts. This concludes Facebook is a double-edged sword. On the one hand, it connects with a number of good, reliable friends and relatives on the other hand; there are some wolves in sheep’s skin and wait for their prey. These people are the imposters and look out for gullible prey around. Such people are generally behind cyber bulling. The truth has it that they will never leave a chance to get under your skin. Sooner we identify such facebook friends better it is.
It seems that today everyone has a facebook account…a life without a facebook account has become next to impossible in the modern society. Some people use it to stay connected with their friends and relatives; others use it for their vested interest.
The bottom line is that some use Facebook while others misuse it. Many incidents have been reported, where serious crimes were committed through facebook. In a situation like this naturally a question pops up in our minds…are facebook friends reliable?
When asked, “Are facebook friends reliable?” this scribe received the following opinions.
Facebook friends may not be reliable
Prajwol Pokhrel has been active on Facebook for about 5 years. He has many online friends. “May be I know about 80% of my facebook friends. However, remaining friends are just facebook friends,” says Prajwol with a broad smile on his face. He likes discovering people on Facebook. “I thoroughly check a person’s background on facebook before accepting any friendship request,” he added. What he never does is sending random friend request or accepting them. “When I first signed up on Facebook I was thrilled at discovering many friends on facebook, but as time passed by my excitement died down. I must admit that Facebook is not secure. Innocent facebook users can easily be exploited and manipulated. Many cases of this kind have already been reported. A fake identity can be created to trap innocent facebook users. “What can you do to know the heinous intention of a person sitting on the other side of the screen?” asked Prajwol.
Karunanidhi Education Foundation, Pokhara
Use facebook sensibly
Kishore Pokhrel has over 2500 friends on Facebook and he is active on facebook for few years. Initially, he was not interested in facebook but later he joined under his friends’ repeated request. “I use facebook sensibly and I would like to advise others to do the same. There are good people and bad people on facebook. Similarly, there are good stuff and bad stuff. We should remain friendly with good people while we should drop the bad ones. We should not make a fuss of small things as many people do it out of their habits. In brief, facebook helps me to be informed and updated,” said Kishore
Janapriya Multiple Campus, Pokhara
Let’s make facebook chatting more scholarly
Shriya Shrestha has been on Facebook for the last 4 years or so. Although she has over 1000 friends on facebook, she knows only a few of them personally. She defines Facebook as a newspaper for the younger generation. It seems Shriya is more liberal with facebook friends. “Good people are always good as they are helpful, friendly and progressive”, says Shriya. “I don’t like young students chatting in Roman Nepali; they should chat in English instead. A practice of chatting in English will eventually improve their command over English language. Every available time spend on improving English language is the best investment of time itself. Shriya frankly says that many facebook friends are not reliable. However, a small number of people may worth making friends. “There are many places where facebook has to work to protect innocent facebook users. Many unscrupulous people are still taking the advantage of facebook’s weaknesses. For instance, anyone can copy your photos from facebook and misuse them. Don’t you think this as a serious invasion on the privacy of the facebook users?” asked Shriya.
St. Mary’s Higher Secondary School, Pokhara
I pick up friends on facebook based on mutual friends
Sapsana Thapa has been on Facebook since 6 years. She has over 1200 friends. “I don’t know many friends on facebook. I know the friends who are intimate to me. In fact, facebook brings people closer who are far away but at the same time, it also takes us away from those friends who are nearby us. Before I accept an unknown friend request, I see how many mutual friends we have. I give priority for more mutual friends. This is a kind of security. However, I may have more trust in Instagram to Facebook. She likes more about Instagram because the user can have greater control. On Instagram the users are on the driving seat. They can decide who can see their timelines and who can download their photos. However, this facility is not available with facebook. Many incidents have already been reported where photos and short videos were misused on facebook. “Moreover, a group of experts must be vigilant on facebook to check people’s comments. They should ban facebook users who misuse the platform,” advised Sapsana.
Sagarmatha Higher Secondary School, Pokhara
A facebook friend request has to go through my own security checks
Poonam Thapa has been on facebook for about 5 years. She has 1000+ Facebook friends. “Making new friends on facebook…well, I am very strict,” says Poonam and further adds, “I never accept a friend request from an unknown person on my facebook. A new facebook friendship request must pass through security checks before getting my approval”. Nowadays Poonam is not on Facebook as much as she used to be a few years ago. Nowadays she uses Facebook for the news feed and to know what her friends are up to. However, she is thankful to the group who keep humor alive on Facebook. Rumors spread fast and Facebook has added more fuel to it. In the meantime, Poonam does not want to judge people on the basis of their Facebook timeline. Such timeline entries can be copied. Moreover, people become friends on facebook with different intentions. As time passes by only true people will remain as friends others will disappear. “In brief facebook friends are unpredictable and highly unreliable”. We can never know what is going on in someone’s mind. One should be alert on facebook” advises Poonam.
Mahendra Secondary School, Pokhara
I want to keep myself on low profile, even on facebook
Prakash Paudel has just spent 4 years on Facebook. He has more than 600 friends on Facebook. He candidly accepts that more than half of the friends on facebook he does not know them. “I was bit careless in making friends on facebook. But now, after knowing dark sides of facebook, I am more careful. I am quite aware of hidden dangers come along with facebook. Therefore, I am always careful about picking up a friend on facebook. I have over one hundred friend requests pending on my facebook” says Prakash. “By nature I am a shy boy and therefore I always hesitate initiating a conversation or chatting with a stranger on facebook. But, once I start chatting I communicate well. I am addicted to news feed and notification panel of Facebook. I don’t like tagging. In brief I should admit the fact that facebook has provided a good platform to connect with people but at a cost.” accepts Prakash.
Chhoretan Secondary School, Pokhara
About the author
Right from the school time, Tek Chhetri has an outstanding educational career. He scored 84% in the SLC exam and in +2 he got through in distinction. Aspiring to study Mechanical Engineering and IT, at present Mr.Chhetri is busy in the preparation of SAT and TOEFL at Miracle Institute, Pokhara. Writing is Mr. Chhetri’s hobby.
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